Adam had everything he wanted in the garden, Food, Comfort, Direct fellowship with God. But still he was lonely.
Eve entered. That’s the way God has made us. We’re social beings. And we are also lonely beings. We long for company.
Company not just from friends and family, but from the special person that God has for us. Someone with whom we can share simple pleasures and pains. Someone with whom we can build a life and raise a family with.
It’s a fundamental need inside all of us to find a life mate. That’s why we date. It’s the first step towards choosing God’s perfect life partner and Christian online dating can make the whole process a lot simpler.
But you need to make a choice: Partner or Pal?
Before you begin dating online, you need to establish exactly what you want: just friends or a potential mate.
If a casual relationship is what you desire, you’ll only be looking for other Christian friends. So in this scenario, you’ll obviously be searching for another Christian single that’s not inclined towards establishing a serious relationship.
If both parties understand this clearly from the get-go, it leaves no room for heartbreak.
But when one party is looking for something more serious and the other party just wants to be friends, that’s where problems start. So you should be very candid about what you are looking for from the very beginning, making your intentions absolutely clear.
At the same time you should have no doubts about the intentions of the other person. Remember, even if it is a casual relationship, there should be mutual understanding about the nature of the relationship.
Of course, there’s always the possibility of a friendship blossoming into something more serious. That’s what happened with my wife, Ronda, and I.
We were both part of a large singles group in our church. At the time, she was involved in a long distance relationship and I had my eye on several prospects in our group.
Because we’re both very social people, we became good friends very quickly. Our phone conversations would last for hours and it always seemed like we’d end up sitting next to each other during service.
Then something funny happened. As I got to know her better, I saw an inner beauty inside of her shining like a light. And I became more interested.
Eventually, her long distance relationship fizzled (who says God doesn’t answer prayer) and I was the sympathetic friend. I waited until I felt the time was right, and then made my move…
…and she turned me down flat.
She wasn’t really ready for anything else just yet. No problem. I understand. So I waited a few more weeks, then asked again.
Her answer? Yep, you guessed it. Another no. Still not ready.
Okay, by this time, I’m starting to get a little frustrated. Maybe she really doesn’t want to date me. So I left her alone and began concentrating my efforts on other prospects.
A few weeks later, we had our singles group Christmas party. Ronda, the consummate coordinator, was working like a mad woman trying to make sure everything went off exactly as planned. I was helping in any way I could, but was also spending a considerable amount of time chatting with several young ladies in attendance.
Apparently, she took notice. After the dinner, Ronda was asked to lead the group (around 100 people) in some Christmas carols. Exhausted from the evening’s activities, it was the last thing she wanted to do. But being people pleaser that she is, she said yes anyway.
As we sang, her eyes eventually met mine and I instinctively winked and smiled at her. I knew it had been a rough evening, and it was my way of saying, “You’re doing great kiddo. Keep it up.”
But what I DIDN’T know until later was that, with my wink and smile, Ronda had an epiphany. In her words, “I realized that this was a totally wonderful man who was very interested in me and I couldn’t even see it. It was an IQ test, and I was flunking.”
Shortly afterwards, we were looking for our coats and she casually asked me what I was doing Friday night.